Lets Re-Write your Story. 

We all have a story. As children we have thoughts about ourselves and the world around us and by the age of 7 these thoughts become beliefs. If  parent behaves badly or is neglectful a child always believes it is because there is something wrong with them, that they have done something wrong and faulty beliefs such as I am unlovable or I am not important form. As the child grows they find situations which reinforce these negative beliefs and they become cemented in as a core wound that they carry into adulthood.  It shapes the person they become, how they show up in relationships as an adult and also the type of people they choose to be in a relationship with. They tend to become codependent and show up as people pleasers, perfectionists or over achievers in order to prove their worth.

Unhealed wounds and a caring, empathic nature makes them particularly attractive to a Narcissist. In order to gain control, a Narcissist will shine a spotlight on their wounds to undermine their confidence, demoralise them and destroy their self-esteem. They quickly become trauma bonded and it is very hard to leave the relationship. This is all because their inner child is still running the story and childhood trauma responses are stuck in their bodies. Feeling stuck and alone, they are full of shame and guilt.

If you have experienced Narcissistic Abuse then you will have some of these faulty beliefs about yourself, even if you do not remember having a particularly bad childhood. This is because trauma is not the event it is what we say to ourselves about the event, it is our perception and the meaning that we attach to it about ourselves. We all react differently to things and so what might not cause any trauma in one person could cause PTSD in the next. The good news though is that, whatever your trauma responses and beliefs about yourself are, by healing them we can re-write the story our younger selves wrote all those years ago. 
  
The Freedom Within program uses Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching, IFS and Polyvagal theory along with modalities like Brainspotting and the Safe and Sound Protocol so that we can get to the root cause of the problem and start healing those faulty beliefs. Let me reassure you now that things will get better and you will not feel like this forever! When we heal our childhood wounds the Narcissist loses their power over us because we know our own worth. We have 'upgraded' our thought processes and feel in our bodies that we are good enough and that we are worthy of authentic love. You will learn how to spot the red flags, how to listen to your gut and how to hold boundaries. You will improve your relationships with your children, whatever their age, because you will be able to stay more grounded and be less triggered. Most importantly you will have a hope and freedom in your life that you wouldn't have thought possible before.